Are You a Toxic Boss? Signs Your LeaderHabits Might Be Damaging Your Team

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Toxic bosses are like the elephant in the room: they exist, but we don’t talk about them, even when we should be. No one deserves to be working under those conditions! Especially, if you’re like most people that spend the majority of your waking hours at work. 

It’s important to have a healthy and positive work environment in order to be productive and happy. Unfortunately, not all bosses promote this workplace culture. In fact, some bosses might be the reason why your work environment is so toxic. This blog post will discuss the signs of a toxic boss (fortunately, you haven’t become one!) and how to deal with them.

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Bad bosses cost companies millions annually in lost productivity, high turnover rates, and decreased morale. In fact, back in 2021, more than 47 million Americans resigned from their jobs as a part of the Great Resignation movement (actually, we have a blog post about this trend, you can read it here.)

The question: WHY?

Employees are quitting their jobs to seek greater pay, better benefits, new opportunities, and safer working environments. Especially, the latter. According to a survey by Real Estate Witch, 31% of workers who quit during the Great Resignation did so because they couldn’t take their company’s toxic culture anymore!

Resignation Statistics

• The most common reason workers quit during the Great Resignation was toxis company culture (31%).
• 80% of respondents said the pandemic influenced their decision to resign.
• Of employees who quit because of the pandemic, 41% did so because their employer didn’t enforce enough health and safety protocols, while 28% didn’t want to follow their organization’s protocols.

So, what is toxic workplace culture? It’s an environment where employees feel belittled, unappreciated, and stressed out. This type of toxic environment can be caused by several factors, such as bad management, unrealistic expectations, and lack of work-life balance. 

But, the most common factor? Toxic bosses! But most important: Are you one of them?

Toxic bosses are the ones that create a toxic work environment. They’re the leaders that use fear and intimidation to get what they want, micromanage their employees, and take credit for their team’s successes. Sound familiar? 

Are You a Toxic Boss? Signs Your Leader Habits Might Be Damaging Your Team

We are not here to point our fingers at anyone, au contraire, we want to help improve your workplace, so you can retain your top talent and boost your ROI!

Here are some signs that you or your boss could be on the toxic side:

Sign #1: Micromanaging 

Do you find yourself constantly looking over your employees’ shoulders, correcting their every move, and questioning their every decision? If so, you might be a toxic boss. Micromanaging is defined as “a management style whereby a boss closely controls and supervises workers.” 

This type of behavior usually manifests in the form of constantly checking in on employees, giving them little to no opportunity to work independently, and being generally skeptical or dismissive of their ideas. 

Here are a ten sign of a micromanager:

• Assume a superior role
• Too scared of mistakes
• Do not trust
• Difficulty in letting go
• Act as a bottleneck
• Act as perfectionist
• Raise their self-esteem
• Fear of misign out (FOMO)
• Exercise control
• Authority use

Micromanaging is a toxic habit because it shows a lack of trust in your employees and their abilities. It also creates an environment of fear and intimidation instead of collaboration and creativity.

Employees who are constantly being watched and monitored are never able to fully relax and do their best work

Furthermore, micromanagers typically don’t trust their employees to do the job they were hired to do, which can lead to feelings of frustration and inadequacy. 

If you’re currently working for a micromanaging boss, it’s important to take action!

• First, try talking to your boss about your concerns. 
• If that doesn’t work, consider looking for a new job at a company where employees are trusted and valued. 

But, if you are the one micromanaging, try giving your employees some space and see what they are capable of. You might be surprised!

Sign #2: Taking Credit for Your Team’s Successes

Taking credit for your team’s successes is a sure sign of a toxic boss. A good leader will always give credit where it’s due, and will never try to take all the credit for themselves. 

A toxic boss, on the other hand, will always be looking for ways to take credit for their team’s successes, even if they had nothing to do with it. This kind of behavior creates a highly toxic workplace, where employees are always afraid of receiving credit for their own work. 

Taking credit for your team’s successes is a clear sign that you’re not a good leader, and that you’re more interested in self-promotion 

If you’re ever in a position where you’re tempted to take credit for your team’s successes, ask yourself whether you’re really doing it for the right reasons. If you’re only interested in self-promotion, then it’s time to learn some collaboration skills. 

We have gathered for you “The Skills for Collaboration: What You Need to Know About Working Effectively as a Team” here. Look it up!

Sign #3: Belittle or Public Criticism

Publicly criticizing or belittling employees is a toxic habit that should be avoided at all costs. This type of behavior usually takes the form of humiliating an employee in front of their colleagues, making snide comments about their work or abilities, or putting them down in front of others. 

This kind of behavior is toxic for several reasons:

• First, it creates an environment of fear and intimidation instead of trust and respect. 
• Second, it shows a complete lack of respect for your employees. 
• Finally, it can lead to low morale and high turnover rates. 

If you’re currently working for a boss who criticizes you publicly, bring the topic to the table:

• Talk to your boss about your concerns and see if there’s a way to address the issue without quitting or getting fired. 
• If that doesn’t work, start looking for a new job at a company where employees are treated with respect. 

But, if you’re the one criticizing your employees publicly, try to stop yourself. This type of behavior is toxic and will only damage your relationships with your employees. Instead, try giving constructive criticism in private. This will show your employees that you respect them and value their opinion.

Toxic bosses often have unrealistic demands on their employees. This can take the form of expecting employees to work long hours with no overtime pay, demanding that they complete tasks that are impossible or unreasonable, or simply putting too much pressure on them without providing adequate resources. 

Sign #4: Unrealistic Demands

Toxic bosses often have unrealistic demands on their employees. This can take the form of expecting employees to work long hours with no overtime pay, demanding that they complete tasks that are impossible or unreasonable, or simply putting too much pressure on them without providing adequate resources.  

This kind of behavior leads to burnout, frustration, and resentment. It also creates an environment where employees are constantly under stress and feel like they can never do enough

If you’re currently working for a boss who has unrealistic demands, try to negotiate a more reasonable workload. If that doesn’t work, start looking for a new job at a company where employees are treated fairly. 

But, if you’re the one making unrealistic demands on your employees, try to be more realistic. This will show your employees that you respect their time and appreciate their work helping to reduce stress levels and improve morale. 

Sign #5: You Are Never Wrong

When does “I am the boss” become an analogy for “I am never wrong”?

Toxic bosses often have a hard time admitting when they’re wrong. This can take the form of making excuses, deflecting blame, or simply refusing to admit that there’s a problem. 

In addition, bosses who never admit they are wrong often end up making more mistakes. Without feedback from their employees, they are unable to learn from their mistakes and improve their performance. 

This kind of behavior creates an environment of mistrust and resentment. It also shows a lack of respect for your employees

If you’re currently working for a boss who never admits when they’re wrong, try to talk to them about your concerns.

But, if you’re the one who never admits when you’re wrong, try to change your behavior. For example, instead of saying “I’m the boss, so I’m always right,” try saying “I value your opinion, but let’s discuss this further.” And try to reflect on your actions. 

Sign #6: Make You Doubt Your Abilities and Talents

Toxic bosses often make their employees doubt their abilities and talents. This can take the form of constantly critiquing their work, making them feel like they’re not good enough, or putting them down in front of others. 

This kind of behavior is toxic for several reasons:

• First, it creates an environment of fear and insecurity. 
• Second, it leads to low morale and high turnover rates. 
• Finally, it shows a lack of respect for your employees. 

If you’re currently working for a boss who makes you doubt your abilities and talents, try to talk to them about your concerns. 

But, if you’re the one making your employees doubt their abilities and talents, try to change your behavior. For example, instead of saying “you’re not good enough,” try saying “I’m sure you’ll do great next time. How can I help you succeed?” 

Sign #7: You’re a Workaholic

Toxic bosses often have a hard time balancing work and life. This can take the form of working long hours, expecting employees to do the same, or putting work above all else. 

This kind of behavior is toxic for several reasons: 

• Creates an environment of burnout and stress. 
• Leads to a lack of work-life balance. 
• Shows a lack of respect for your employees’ time. 

If you’re currently working for a boss who is a workaholic, don’t hesitate to talk this through. As a human being, you deserve a good work-life balance and to spend time with your family.

But, if you’re the one who is a workaholic, try to change your behavior. For example, instead of working long hours (and dragging your employees along), try taking breaks and leaving on time. 

And instead of putting work above all else, try to find a balance between work and life. 

Sign #8: You’re Inconsistent

Toxic bosses often have a hard time being consistent. This can take the form of changing their mind often, making decisions without consulting others, or going back on their word. 

This kind of behavior:

• Creates an environment of uncertainty and anxiety. 
• Leads to confusion and frustration. 
• Shows a lack of direction in your management.

If you’re currently working for a boss who is inconsistent, try to be patient and offer some feedback on how to improve the process of decision-making.

But, if you’re the one who is inconsistent, try to change your behavior. For example, instead of making harsh decisions or making decisions without consulting others, try to involve your employees in the decision-making process. 

Sign #9:  Manipulative Communication

Recognizing manipulative communication is crucial when dealing with a toxic boss. This behavior can take many forms, from subtle comments designed to undermine your confidence to overt attempts at controlling your actions. It’s important to stay alert to the signs, which may include:

• Backhanded compliments that leave you feeling demeaned
• Gaslighting, or making you question your own reality and judgment
• Public criticism paired with private praise, creating confusion about their true intentions

When faced with manipulative communication, it’s essential to maintain a clear record of what was said. This can help you identify patterns and, if necessary, provide evidence of the toxic behavior. Additionally, try to communicate in writing when possible, as this creates a verifiable trail of your interactions. Remember, your perception and feelings are valid, and recognizing these tactics is the first step in formulating a response.

Sign #10: Lack of Empathy

A toxic boss often exhibits a stark lack of empathy, which can manifest in various detrimental ways. They may disregard employees’ personal circumstances, ignore signs of burnout, or fail to provide support during challenging times. This behavior not only affects morale but can also lead to a hostile work environment.

To navigate this aspect of toxicity, consider the following steps:

• Acknowledge Your Feelings: Recognize that it’s normal to feel undervalued or frustrated in such situations.
• Seek External Support: Confide in trusted colleagues, friends, or a professional counselor to help process your experiences.
• Protect Your Well-being: Ensure that you prioritize your mental and emotional health by setting clear boundaries between work and personal life.

Remember, while you may not be able to change your boss’s behavior, you can take steps to safeguard your own well-being and maintain a level of professional effectiveness.

Strategies for Dealing with a Toxic Boss

Setting Boundaries

Establishing clear boundaries with a toxic boss is crucial for preserving your mental health and ensuring a sustainable work-life balance. It involves being assertive about your limits and communicating them in a professional manner. Here are some steps to consider:

• Identify Your Limits: Reflect on what you can tolerate and where you draw the line. This could be about the amount of work, the tone of communication, or the level of autonomy you need.
• Communicate Clearly: Once you know your boundaries, articulate them to your boss. Use ‘I’ statements to express how certain behaviors affect your work and well-being.
• Stay Consistent: Enforcing boundaries is an ongoing process. Be consistent in your responses and actions to ensure your boss understands and respects your limits.
• Know Your Rights: Familiarize yourself with the company’s policies and your legal rights. This knowledge can empower you to stand up for yourself in difficult situations.

Remember, setting boundaries is not about creating conflict; it’s about establishing a respectful professional relationship. It may be uncomfortable at first, but it’s a necessary step towards a healthier work environment.

Seeking Support

When dealing with a toxic boss, it’s crucial not to isolate yourself. Seeking support can provide a buffer against the negative effects of a toxic work environment. Here are some ways to find the support you need:

• Reach out to colleagues: They may have experienced similar issues and can offer empathy and advice. Sharing your experiences with trusted coworkers can also help validate your feelings.
• Utilize HR or Employee Assistance Programs (EAP): Human Resources can be a resource for resolving conflicts and understanding your rights. If your company has an EAP, they can provide confidential counseling and support.
• Professional networks: Engage with your professional network outside of your current workplace. They can offer perspective, mentorship, and potentially assist in finding new job opportunities if necessary.
• Friends and family: Don’t underestimate the power of a strong personal support system. Friends and family can provide emotional support and a listening ear.

Remember, seeking support is a sign of strength, not weakness. It’s an important step in maintaining your well-being and professional integrity in the face of a challenging situation.

Documenting Interactions

Keeping a detailed record of your interactions with a toxic boss can be a crucial step in managing the situation. It serves as an objective reference that can help you understand patterns of behavior and, if necessary, provide evidence in disputes or formal complaints. Here are some tips for effective documentation:

• Be Timely: Write down the details as soon as possible after the interaction occurs. This ensures that your memory is fresh and the details are accurate.
• Be Specific: Include dates, times, locations, and the names of any witnesses. Describe the behavior or language used without embellishment, focusing on facts rather than interpretations or feelings.
• Be Organized: Maintain your records in a secure and private place. Consider using a digital format with backups for added security and ease of access.
• Be Discreet: Keep your documentation process discreet to avoid escalating the situation. It’s not about gathering ammunition, but rather about protecting your interests and well-being.

Remember, the goal of documenting interactions is not to fuel the fire of conflict but to provide a clear and factual account that can support you in seeking resolution or advocating for yourself in a professional setting.

Maintaining Self-Care in a Toxic Work Environment

Practicing Mindfulness

In the midst of a toxic work environment, practicing mindfulness can be a beacon of calm. It involves being present in the moment and fully engaging with the here and now, which can help reduce stress and anxiety.

• Start with short, daily sessions of meditation or deep breathing exercises to center your thoughts.
• Integrate mindfulness into routine activities, such as mindful eating or mindful walking, to cultivate a habit of awareness.
• Use mindfulness apps or guided sessions to help you stay focused and committed to your practice.

By regularly dedicating time to mindfulness, you can develop a stronger sense of inner peace and resilience, which can buffer the negative effects of a toxic boss.

Taking Breaks

In the relentless pace of a toxic work environment, it’s crucial to remember the power of taking breaks. Stepping away from your desk or workstation can serve as a vital reset button for your mental state, allowing you to return with a clearer mind and renewed focus.

• Step away regularly: Aim to take short breaks every hour or so, even if it’s just for a few minutes. This can help reduce the buildup of stress and prevent burnout.
• Change your environment: If possible, leave the area where you work. A change of scenery can provide a new perspective and help to dissipate tension.
• Engage in relaxation techniques: Use your break time to practice deep breathing, stretching, or even a brief walk. These activities can lower stress levels and improve overall well-being.

Remember, taking breaks is not a sign of weakness but a strategic move to ensure you maintain your health and productivity in the long run. Encourage a culture of break-taking among your colleagues to foster a more supportive work environment.

Engaging in Hobbies

In the midst of a challenging work environment, it’s crucial to find an outlet for stress and creativity. Hobbies can serve as a powerful tool for maintaining mental health and building resilience against workplace toxicity.

• Diversify Your Interests: Engage in activities that differ from your work tasks to provide a mental break. Whether it’s painting, playing a musical instrument, or gardening, these pursuits can offer a sense of accomplishment and joy.
• Socialize Through Hobbies: Some hobbies can connect you with others who share similar interests, helping to build a support network outside of work. Joining clubs or online communities can enhance your social life and reduce feelings of isolation.
• Schedule Regular Hobby Time: Consistency is key. Carve out time in your schedule for hobbies, treating this time as a non-negotiable appointment with yourself. This ensures that you regularly step away from work-related stress and recharge your batteries.

Boss or Leader?

The times are changing, and employees are no longer interested in being commanded, but in feeling part of the company. In fact, 9 out of 10 people are willing to earn less money to do more meaningful work. Having a purpose is the new money!

The toxic boss culture is quickly becoming a thing of the past as the toxic workplace culture is slowly being left behind. With the rise of the internet and social media, toxic workplaces are no longer able to operate in secrecy, and employees are no longer afraid to speak out about their experiences.

We could even say the “boss” position is being replaced by the “leader” position.

Leaders are people who inspire and motivate others to achieve their goals. They are focused on the collective success of their team, not just their own personal success. 

Collaborative working is the future of the workplace!

Final Thoughts

The 21st century workplace is a different place than it was even five years ago. Employees want to feel included and that their work is valuable. They don’t want to feel like they are working in a toxic environment where their boss lords over them with an iron fist.

While it’s impossible to please everyone all of the time, it’s important to be aware of the signs that you might be a toxic boss

If your boss or leader exhibits any of the signs above, it’s time for you to take action. Don’t hesitate to speak up and let them know that their behavior is toxic and not tolerated in today’s workplace. 

By changing your own toxic traits, you can become the leader your employees want and create a productive work environment where everyone feels valued. What changes will you make starting today?

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-The Monitask Team

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